What is Team & Relationship Coaching?

Coaching is not counseling and although the two can compliment each other and bring inherent value to the client, they are based in different theory.  Counseling has its roots in therapy, medicine and psychiatry whereas coaching grew out of sports, business and personal growth venues.  "What's the difference?" is likely one of the most commonly asked questions and the distinction used to be clearer.  The difference now is subtle, yet fundamental.  Counselors and Therapists are moving away from strictly diagnosing, stabilizing or healing a past emotional trauma or dysfunction in their clients toward a more coach-like model.  Their model holds that they are the expert and they have extensive training in psychology with professional expertise and guidelines to provide a path to healing.  Coaches are process people who work with clients not to solve, but co-create with them in an equal relationship by turning challenges into victories and holding the client accountable for their desired results.  The Coach is not qualified to be a Therapist and holds that the client is the expert in their lives.  Coaching is a catalyst for growth and progress that helps clients learn new skills and tools to build a more satisfying successful future while experiencing tangible, measurable results.  Coaching focuses primarily on the now and the future, rather than the past.  However, coaches will refer to the past when it is relevant to uncovering beliefs or values that are blocking the client from where they say they want to go.

In Relationship Coaching we operate from the perspective that everyone is right...at least partially. There are no choosing sides or deciding who is right and who is wrong. Every member is an equal part of the relationship and holds unique answers and keys to its success. We use a range of tools and exercises to unfold what the relationship is wanting and how each member will play a role in that. The focus of Relationship Coaching is on the relationship itself as an entity, rather than the sum of the individuals involved in the relationship. This subtle shift has a profound impact on the results that are possible in systems coaching. This groundbreaking model for coaching relationship systems was developed by Marita Fridjhon M.S.W., CPCC, PCC and Faith Fuller, PhD, CPCC in the mid 1990s.

Within every relationship is the power to heal and the power to harm. Make no mistake that we are doing either one or the other in every moment; there is no fence sitting.  Relationship Coaching invites people in partnerships to move beyond 'who is doing what to whom' and into the expansive space of 'what is trying to happen'. This is the place where claiming and living a relationship vision is possible.

Relationship Coaching

What if you could go beyond the right and wrong, taking sides, beyond the sum of the members and look at the relationship as an entity unto itself? What if your experience of being in relationship was always right... at least partially and you held a vital piece and a voice in the success of each relationship? Relationship is defined as — 'A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealings with each other'. That sounds like pretty much everyone in my life from my husband to the bank teller. Relationship coaching works for friends, family, couples, and you guessed it, anyone else in relationship! These fantastic tools also work with individuals wanting a very different relationship with money, time, sleep, etc.

Team Coaching

Today, the health of corporate relationships between executives/leaders, managers and co-workers is more important and has greater impact on the productivity of the company.

Team Coaching focuses on positivity — a direct measure of the health of relationships within an organization. You have the option of using a Team Assessment and Diagnostic Tool that will quantify your team in a full, tangible report to clearly understand your starting point, how far you have come, or both. Imagine your employees are like the cells and the internal teams or departments are like the organs that comprise your body, your company. By fostering powerful relationships the entire organization and its employees are energized and your body operates at maximum potential.Team coaching applies to sports teams as well, at any level. Aly Pain has an extensive competitive sports background and has been "the other half" of Jeff Pain, 2006 Olympic Silver Medallist, for over 12 years. Together we bring a package that will take you from competitive to elite, from participating to Gold.

Pre-marital coaching

If you are going to pay all the money for a wedding day, why not create a marriage that reflects your investment? There is no question your wedding day is a very special day. Unfortunately, we don't often look past that to what our marriage might look like. Most often we get caught up in unconscious beliefs of what a marriage "should" be and play a role we have learned rather than the one we want to play. Then there are the unconscious and unspoken expectations I have of my partner that they are just not complying with! Pre-marital coaching uses experiential and fun tools over a six month period to get much of those beliefs and "how it was with my parents" out in the open where we can clearly evaluate what is working, what is not, create an identity and long term vision. With the divorce rates rising, giving your marriage the gift of conscious longevity will support you to stay on the married side of the statistics.

Family Coaching

As a wife and parent I certainly have experienced first had the challenge of raising a family, negotiating relationships and not loosing myself in the process. Family coaching allows each member to take part in creating a family identity and vision they can get rooted in to grow. These days family looks very different than it used to and there is opportunity to embrace the uniqueness and reconnect to our values. Family coaching is about finding common ground and having each voice be heard, even the unfavorable ones, not about recreating the Cleavers. Family can be a place to call 'home', whether you live together or not. Children ages six and over are included in this process although not necessarily in every session.

Divorce Coaching

What the heck??!! Yes, there is such a thing as parting ways with your dignity in tack in a respectful way. Divorce is very costly; you don't need to pay with your sanity or emotional well-being. Divorce coaching is a safe and respectful container to experience the anger, hurt, and grief that you may be carrying with you. We look into toxic communication styles and what really wants to be said behind them. During the process each member has the opportunity to begin writing a new story and take action steps toward that. Your life after divorce can be inclusive of family and still honour your values.

Relationship/Team Coaching occurs over the phone, using the web or in person. If you are interested in Relationship Systems/Team Coaching for your company or personal life, contact InnerPiece today.