About Aly Pain

Aly Pain is fiercely passionate about the unique and unlimited potential in every person. She uses her training and gifts to help you cut through your crap and chaos to find it, own it and act on it. She brings her bold, authentic and skilled coaching to developing and delivering her Exponentially You Programs, keynotes and workshops that move you forward, faster, both personally and professionally.

Decoding The Interspecies Language Barrier

What is your leadership style? Are you a get-it-done type or a caring, relationship builder? Are you touchy feely, go-with-your gut person or a cautious, information gatherer? Are you direct, often interpreted as blunt, or more emotional, viewed as wishy-washy? Knowing your leadership style is important to your success in both your business and personal [...]

2018-06-01T03:31:14+00:000 Comments

It Isn’t Them You Don’t Trust

You know when trust is present in a relationship when you don’t give much thought to what the other person (or people) are doing. You have peace of mind that they are going to do what they say they will, while keeping your best interest at heart. You’re coming to the table as equals because [...]

2018-06-01T03:33:07+00:000 Comments

Overrated V-Day

This weekend is the mass marketing of love; the concept, the verb, the noun, and all the ways you should be and do to find, have and keep more love. And if you spend more, you’ll get more. At least that’s the message and I don’t subscribe to it. I think there is something far [...]

2018-03-08T05:01:11+00:000 Comments

Are You Hiding In The Facade Of Fine?

Do you consider FINE an acceptable answer to the ‘How are you doing?’, ‘How are things going?’ questions? How often do you use FINE to avoid risking and revealing the truth of what’s really going on? FINE is one of the most widely accepted cop-outs and four letter words that so many of us use [...]

2018-03-08T05:02:09+00:000 Comments

Change Is Hard, Now What?

Are you tired of all the rah-rah-rah messaging you hear from the guru types? The “Look at my amazing life and you can do it too (insert sparkling Colgate smile here)!” hype you see all over social media and spammed to your inbox? It kind of feels empty, doesn’t it? Don’t get me wrong. I [...]

2018-06-01T03:36:52+00:000 Comments

Are You Stuck In A Vicious Cycle?

Does your life seem like an endless cycle of negativity when everything seems to be going wrong? The trouble is that the more frustrated and angry you get, the worse everything around you becomes. One bad event can quickly turn into a vicious cycle of negativity. This vicious cycle can really erode your self-confidence, leading [...]

2018-06-01T03:37:53+00:001 Comment

Moving Beyond Business With A Handshake

There was a time when doing business with a handshake was all we ever needed. It was assumed that everyone would behave with the utmost integrity so there was never any reason to resort to a formal agreement to resolve a dispute. Unfortunately, that time is over and if you are doing business with a [...]

2018-06-01T03:44:21+00:000 Comments

The Pitfalls Of Putting Reward Before Responsibility

It’s tempting to offer prospective employees lucrative employment packages when faced with a competitive market. The thinking is that in order to attract the best talent, you have to promise the world to someone who hasn’t even proven himself in that role at your organization. This misguided recruitment approach has leaders offering all sorts of [...]

2017-03-21T21:13:50+00:000 Comments

Unplugging The Victim Vacuum

Are you stuck in the victim vacuum? That place where everything good is just sucked out of your life and devoured? That negative void where nothing good can happen and only your worst fears come true? It’s time to take control and stop playing the victim. Victims are so busy being consumed by how everything [...]

2018-06-01T03:45:34+00:000 Comments


Feedback. It’s possibly the most terrifying word you can use in a business environment. It has actually been proven to raise peoples’ body temperature and blood pressure at the mere mention of the word! Love it or hate it, feedback is necessary for growth. Without feedback it is impossible to learn and grow as an [...]

2017-03-21T21:13:50+00:000 Comments

10 Signs You Are Addicted To Hopium

As a coach, I talk about change all the time with my clients, here in my blogs, and from the stage. Although change is a widely researched process with many case studies available, there is a lesser-known addiction that gets in the way of creating change. You know what you want on the other side [...]

2018-06-01T00:55:29+00:000 Comments

When Your Clutter Becomes A Garbage Dump

Everyone has them. Those spaces in our minds and in our environment that we don’t want other people to see. Truth be told, we don’t even like to look at them ourselves and so we avoid them altogether, fooling ourselves into thinking they don’t exist. Garbage dumps can be anything that you actively avoid, the [...]

2017-03-21T21:13:50+00:000 Comments